Category Archives Shredded Dignity

Is romantic competition healthy? I think it can be in some arenas. Especially if approached with the attitude that, "It's just a game. Doesn't really matter who wins or loses." But there's a more insidious type of competition that I want to speak of in today's blog. I want to talk about the girls who compete for male attention. We…

Since I picked on the women last time, I figured it's time to turn my blogging eye to the games men play and the women who let them. In my last blog, I scolded women who use the unspoken and often undelivered promise of sex to get attention. Men have a similar game; the unspoken and often undelivered promise of…

The first woman to fly across the English channel (Dover to Calais, 59 minutes) April 16th, 1912 was Harriet Quimby (US). Her accomplishment did not receive much media attention, as the RMS Titanic had sunk the evening before. I can't stop thinking about this, wondering about her story, how that felt. I want to know her. Can you have success…

Last night I dreamed I was dying of some terrible disease and had decided to commit assisted suicide. I remember going about my "last day on earth" fully well knowing it was my last day. I started the day by going for a long walk, then I met up with various important people in my life and had great conversations.…

I've been having this discussion with friends for years about the difference between irony, coincidence or things that are just plain unfortunate. Irony and coincidence alone are sometimes difficult to differentiate between. But then you throw in that Alanis song where she defines a series of unfortunate events as ironic and the whole mess gets even more muddied. Here's my…

So, I've been reading this interesting book called Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely. It was recommended by my boss as the "best marketing book" he's ever read. All of us think we're making smart, rational choices in our lives. But it turns out that we pretty consistently make irrational choices and ironically think them rational. For instance, we have a…

I've used the term "seeker" before. I think that some of us are seekers. We're exploring the world and relationships, looking for answers to questions we can't even begin to articulate in the silence of our own brains. And then there are some people who are happiest with routine, with following the crowd. This isn't a blog to mock the…

I always feel a little melancholy around this time of the year. Perhaps it's just Fall settling into my bones, mostly grey days and falling leaves. Or perhaps it's the lack of a constant companion, other than the furry one with a tuna addiction. I find solace in bubble baths and cocoa.  Distraction in flirtations.  Comfort in friendships. Am I being unrealistic?  Should I…

My breath fogged out ahead of me, warm against the quickly chilling air as I walked to the 'L'. I couldn't complain.  The last two winters had brought with them feet of snow and back to back Polar Vortexes as well as a newly named snowstorm almost every week.  Didn't we used to only name hurricanes?  Our current winter has…

Eight years ago, I'd drunkenly raised a wine glass to the sky and had asked the Universe when I would finally have the lifestyle to which I'd like to become accustomed.  I just wanted to travel and write. The Universe had responded by laying me off work the very next day.  I'd responded by going into a puddle of melt…

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